We had a really successful open house at Bradford, and I got to spend all day planning weddings with excited brides and unfortunately decided that wearing heels was a brilliant idea.
And while I was trying to decide what to write about, it became pretty clear.
There is a lot of honor to be had when it comes to your Maid of Honor.
Mine happens to be my best friend, Melissa.
Yeah, she's beautiful.
And besides her good looks, she's also a big time producer in DC. Like, Washington, DC.
Which means she lives really far away, and that makes me sad. But let's back up to how we met.
Once upon a time, we were both working overnight shifts at a local news station here in Knoxville.
It's pretty much the most miserable shift ever, and you spend countless hours listening to static on scanners and praying nothing goes up in flames.
We basically ended up talking to each other out of desperation, as we were the only two people in the building.
But we soon found that our love of As Seen On TV products and line dancing made us instantly besties.
And from there we spent many a night drinking and complaining about boys and watching Scandal during the best and worst times of our lives.
Now, I was a little worried about having a Maid of Honor that lived really far away, but I knew it had to be her.
And if you didn't know, there is a LOT riding on being a Maid of Honor...
You have a ton of duties like planning the bachelorette party, planning the bridal shower, helping the bride pick out dresses, and most importantly keeping the bride sane during all of the planning and the wedding!
It's a lot of work, and a lot of time and money.
Not an easy task to do from far away. But Melissa is kicking ASS.
She's been there every step of the way, and has been all of the things a Maid of Honor should be.
And because of all the incredible things she's already done as MOH, I thought during our blog journey, we'd keep touching base with this:
The Melissa Toms Handbook to Being a Kick Ass Maid of Honor*
1. Be enthusiastic - Everybody gets one day where they get to be treated like a Queen, and this wedding is NOT YOUR DAY. It's your bride's, and she's over the moon about it. A lot of her friends, family, and even bridesmaids are going to get sick of hearing about flowers and cakes and minuscule wedding details and it's YOUR job to be just as excited about napkins and hair and whatever else she wants to be excited about. It will undoubtedly be exhausting try to keep up with her, but your unwavering enthusiasm will mean the world to her.
2. Offer reassurance - Getting married is freaking terrifying. You're committing the rest of your life to this one person, and that's a pretty intimidating thought. There will be moments when your bride is going to freak out and meltdown and probably cry a lot. Your job is to be constantly reassuring her that everything will be fine, and that her wedding day will be perfect (even though something will inevitably go wrong, she doesn't need to hear that!). Just be there for her, even if that means letting her cry over things that don't seem very big or important.
3. Rally the troops - The brides not the only one who has planning to do. You've got the bridal shower and the bachelorette party to plan, and the truth of the matter is, you also have a group of bridesmaids to chorale. They're going to be a group of very different people who are likely meeting each other for the first time. You're in charge, and you have to make sure that they all get along, and get to where they are suppose to be to support the bride. And you'll probably have to smack the groomsmen around a little too.
4. Say yes to the dress (but also sometimes say no) - You've been chosen as the MOH for a reason...and that's because you're awesome. And also the bride trusts you! Your opinion means more than pretty much everyone else's and she definitely wants you to weigh in. That means definitely be excited about her choices, but if she really has chosen a horrible dress, step in and get real. That's what friends are for! Well, maybe not friends, but definitely the MOH!
*totally a thing Marvyl made up and Melissa had no input in. Just based off of Melissa's actions and super awesome attitude.
To be continued as Melissa continues to be the best MOH ever.
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